Paying Tribute

We lost one of my favourite uncles yesterday after a brief fight with cancer. I wasn't sure how I would honour his memory...but I thought I might write a few words to tell the world how much he meant to me.

Fourth Uncle was a gentle and kind soul. He cherished family and even though I was a part of his extended family, he always made me feel included. Never would he hesitate to invite me to stay for dinner or to join their family gatherings. I could see how he loved to be surrounded by his family....his eyes would light up when we brought the babies around to say hello and he always insisted on carrying them.

A generous man who could never say no if asked. Thoughtful that he never forgot to send a laysee (red pocket with money) for our birthdays or Christmas. My earliest memories of him was when we were little we would visit him at his store and he would march us to the front and buy us this little box of rice candy that included a toy (similar to a Kindersurprise). We didn't have much when we were growing up and this was a big treat. We really cherished those little toys and this Uncle that made us feel so special.

Most of all I will always remember his smile and how he made me feel special whenever I came to say hello. He always called me by my name and asked me how I was doing. And even on my last visit, when he was so weak he still managed to look at my sister and I and smile and acknowledge our presence.

He really will be missed. I am so thankful that he was a part of my life.

12 comments:

  1. So nice that you can have such thoughtful words after losing a family member.

    I grew up very isolated with only my parents and my sister so I envy those who were able to be surrounded by such love, support, and companionship.

    Love and kindness are never wasted:)

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  2. I will miss him too. He was definitely a family man, a great father to his 5 children. He has always put others needs before his own. He was a wonderful uncle to my siblings and I, and even to our children. Uncle's eyes always lit up when he saw the children and my eldest child loved seeing him. We will miss Uncle dearly but he will always be in our hearts and in our memories.

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  3. I'm so sorry for your loss. Your words are so kind, I'm sure he was an amazing man

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  4. Linda, I'm so sorry to hear that your uncle passed away so quickly - seemed like just yeseterday you told me about his situation. Happy memories of his kindness and generosity will never be forgotten though. Love, A.xx

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  5. Yes, a kind, gentle and generous man indeed.
    There was a time when i was in nursing school, I visited the store after school and it happened to be on a family dinner day. Uncle invited me for dinner and then after dinner he suggested that if I was free, I was welcome every week. I think family dinner was on Thursdays and I came to share dinner with the family several times and had the very sought after "fawn jeew". One of my young memories of Uncle was that one time he gave his son R. 50 bucks for being the human ottoman for him for a few minutes! Hmmm, I could be his ottoman I thought...I think it was just an excuse to give his son some money.
    When I was in the hospital having heart surgery, Uncle was the one who organized relatives buying flowers for me and when they were all sent to my room, boy, I felt soooo special! He sure will be missed!

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  6. Such a wonderful tribute to your Uncle. Thank you for sharing it with the blogosphere. It is obvious that he leaves behind many who loved him.

    -Francesca

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  7. Sorry for your loss. He does sound like a gentle and kind man.

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  8. Thank you for all your kind words. We buried him yesterday and it was so hard to say goodbye. I hope I will follow his example and remember to put my family first. It's really the most important thing in life...to be surrounded by the people who love you. He was very loved.

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  9. I'm so sorry. Big hug for you from Malaysia.

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  10. I am sorry for your loss. (((Hugs)))

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